… not on the other side

A couple of weeks ago, i met someone who recently returned to her former job after taking a job with another institution for two years. She said “I realized the grass is not always greener [on the other side] and i decided to return.” My response was, “Wow! It’s nice that [your former institution] was nice to take you back.” 🙂 Interestingly, she is back in the same position she was before she left. Well, guess it’s true that whatever is meant for you will be for you.

I thought i’d write on this subject because quite often, we as girls/women see pictures of our friends (or other women) or hear about an exciting thing someone else is doing and we begin to wonder what if? We start analyzing our situations and begin comparing our positions/places in life with others around us. Many times, this happens when we look at pictures of our friends on social media outlets or when we catch up after a long time. Ever wished you lived/worked in another City? State? Country? Another part of the world? Ever wondered how your life would be different if you were single, in a relationship, married, dating/married to someone else?!

grass greenerThere are several circumstances we face that might cause us to think that life is better on the other side. However, i want to caution you today to think carefully before you get envious and/or make a drastic decision. Below are some questions and tips to consider before your next big decision:

Regarding a career opportunity:

  • Is this my passion? (Do not pursue an opportunity for the money, glam, or because of your friends)
  • Will this make me happy? And/or will this opportunity help me grow?
  • How much more value will this opportunity add to my life/career trajectory?
  • Have I watered the grass where i am and it still isn’t getting/looking greener?
  • Have I spoken to and heard from God about this?
  • Am i ready for the implications, whatever they may be?

Regarding a romantic relationship:

  • Will this relationship make me truly happy?
  • Why do i want this relationship?
  • Am i (physically, mentally, emotionally/spiritually) ready for this relationship?
  • Have i spoken to and heard from God about this relationship?
  • Am i confident in/of who i am as a person? (It is important to know yourself well before getting involved in a romantic relationship with another person; things get very emotional)

Those are the tips that come to my mind at the moment. But, i would love to hear any tips/advice you have to share. Also, if you’d like to chat about this and other SEG posts, send me a note at nigerianstar2007@yahoo.com. And, like us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongenoughgirls?ref=hl.

Remember, you hold the key to your happiness.


Stay beautiful,

Mizz “O”


Prepare my mind. Prepare my heart…

Welcome Strong Enough gals!

I’m so excited to launch this blog; it’s taken me a year, but hey, forgive!

This morning i woke up with this song on my heart: “i’m gonna be ready” by Yolanda Adams, and i think it’s quite fitting for the launch of this blog. I enjoy Yolanda’s songs- she really speaks to the core of my spirit, and she has been a great inspiration to me. She is a great role model for inspiring courage, patience, and strength.

As i begin this blog, i am currently in the midst of various BIG decisions- particularly, awaiting the result of my Fulbright application (which should come any day before the end of this month), and deciding where i want to be post-March career-wise. I’m currently working at PATH as a program assistant with the Diagnostics Group in the Technology Solutions department. This temporary assignment is expected to end in March, and there might be a possibility of extending my time with my teams. It’s been a blessing to work at PATH; I really enjoy my teams, and i’m looking forward to what the future holds. We’ll see what happens; Jesus is on the wheel 🙂 Once i hear back about the Fulbright, i’ll move forward with other explorations/decisions.

The purpose of this blog is to create an electronic/virtual space for my passion project, “Strong Enough Girls” (SEG), which aims to empower young women to “identify, embrace, and utilize their physical, mental, and intellectual strengths for a better, safer, and more loving world.” I welcome you to join me in this movement to transform women’s lives by becoming positive role models for each other and sharing words of advice, courage, and inspiration with one another as we journey through our time on earth.

Every week, I will be recruiting my friends to write on various topics, as well as, post various inspirational content geared towards SEG objectives of:

  • Elevating – girls, women, and their voices;
  • Illuminating – the inner and outer strengths of girls and women;
  • Promoting – self-awareness, confidence, courage, respect, dignity, love, education, and human rights.

I’m excited to kick this virtual space off! My prayer and hope is that every time you visit this blog, you find something that inspires you to have courage and be a better citizen of the world through finding and engaging your God-given strengths. Let’s go!

With a hug and smile,

Mizz “O”